If you are one of those people that is currently feeling the pain and anguish of having broken up with your loved one, it may only be small consolation to know that you are not alone. The plain fact of the matter is there are hundreds, if not thousands, of couples breaking up each day around the world. However, there is cause for optimism, even in this, your darkest hour, because, on the flip side, there are as many couples getting back together again.
Now, before getting too excited at the prospect of getting back with your ex, you should bear in mind that although a lot of couples manage to recover their relationships, not all attempts to recover a relationship are successful, which means there is a strong possibility that yours also may not succeed. Therefore you should be fully prepared for such an outcome and be ready to move on if your attempts to get back with your ex prove to be fruitless for whatever reason.
With that having being said, let us look at what you need to do to put yourself in a position to be able to enjoy the Magic of Making Up with your loved one.
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
The idea of spending less time with your ex will seem counterintuitive to a lot of people but the first rule to follow in trying to get your ex back is "the less contact with your ex the better." A lot of people imagine that having as much contact with their ex as possible would be ideal in this situation. However, this is something that is more likely to have the opposite effect of pushing them out of their life altogether. Your ex broke up with you because she wanted her own space. The best thing you can do is to respect her wish and give her the space she craves.
When the opportunity presents itself for you to be with your ex, then you should use it to let her see the things in you that made her want you in the first place:by just being yourself. The last thing you want to do in this situation is to try to impress your ex by doing things that are out of character or go against your instincts. You should also avoid getting too close or clingy for obvious reasons. Remember she has expressed her wish to be away from you at this moment so you do not want to be put her off by becoming a nuisance. You should just be your natural self, so that your ex will see the great person she was attracted to in the first place, which should work in your favour. Only when your ex truly realizes how much she misses having you around will you have a chance of getting her back.
Move On Slowly
Whilst working on recovering your relationship with your ex, you should nevertheless slowly think about moving on, just in case things do not work out. The thought of coming to terms with life after your ex will be good for your mind and will help lift your spirits. Obsessively chasing after an ex is generally not good, especially if she is the one that ended the relationship. Once you start to think about moving on, you will soon realize that there are plenty more fish in the sea and this will help you feel much better about yourself. This will also translate into much more positive body language which will be noticeable to your ex on the few occasions you are with her.
Beware of Premature Reconciliation
Finally, the biggest danger in your attempts to get back with your ex is that you could undo any progress you have made by moving too quickly if your ex shows signs of wanting to come back to you. If your ex does start to show interest, then you should continue to do the things you have been doing. Be yourself, be honest and above all else do not assume that everything is now right for both of you. If you suddenly start to take her for granted, you will destroy your chances of ever having your ex back in your arms for good.
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