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Dealing With Anger Part 1

By Benjamin Cook

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Published: 16Jan2010
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Do you get angry sometimes?

You are not alone - it's a natural reaction to a provocative situation. The bad news is that it is killing you slowly through stress, high blood pressure and unhappiness.

There are a lot of things that annoy me in life, and it’s very easy to get angry about them. I've also noticed that there is a certain type of person who seems to know EXACTLY what to say to make me absolutely furious in a really short space of time. Add such a person to an already irritating day and I can go from calm to fuming in less than a minute! What I always try to remember, though, is that these feelings are damaging to both my health and happiness. And if I make the mistake of letting them affect my physical actions I will only harm myself.

For example, I was at a set of traffic lights when a guy in a BMW X6 tried to force his way ahead of me into my lane. Now, I drive an old green Volvo, but here’s the rub – it’s not what people expect; it’s fast (I mean REALLY fast. 5 cylinders and a turbo – with all the racing modifications. You’d never know unless you looked under the hood, or realised your Porsche couldn’t pull away from it on the freeway). I had nowhere to go but forward, and the only way to get there safely was to accelerate past the Beemer, which then had to slow down and pull in behind me.

Just a normal tale of rush hour traffic - except that he got angry. REALLY angry. So angry, in fact, that at the next set of lights he decided to jump out of his car and try to physically attack me.

I was lucky - I didn't need to get angry. I didn't need to respond. I simply drove away when started banging on the window. I'm still not sure what made him so upset; it could have been simple road rage, but I have a sneaking suspicion that it was my few thousand's worth of faster metal versus his high-priced, low-performanced purchase.

I saw him in the mirror as I pulled ahead; his anger went very quickly and he looked rather embarrassed about what he’d tried to do (it was a busy road with lots of witnesses) proving that, on this occasion, his disproportionate reaction only harmed HIM.

But have YOU ever felt like jumping out of your car and hitting someone? Do you shout and scream and angrily gesticulate when you think someone has wronged you?

And how long does your rage last after the moment has passed? Quite a while, I would guess...

The real question is… if you are getting angry often rather than occasionally, and perhaps you’re even worried about what will happen one day if someone REALLY pushes your buttons, perhaps you should think about this:

“Is my behaviour helping me, or hindering me?”

It’s a good question: if your natural response to any situation is so aggressive that it sabotages your health, physical well-being and emotional equilibrium then YOU are damaging YOU.

If you think this may be a possibility, read on to Part 2 of this article to find out how to start making your reactions work for you, rather than against you.

www.benjamincook.co.uk Benjamin Cook is an NLP Practitioner and Hypnotherapist in Glasgow specialising in weight loss, phobia cure, smoking cessation and personal coaching

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