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Is Their Marital Affair Over?

By D Campbell

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Published: 28Nov2011
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It has been a while now since the news broke that your spouse was having a marital affair. At first you did not want to believe it. None of the normal signs of infidelity were detectable so you just chalked up to stress and needless worry.

Except your intuition kept telling you something was wrong. The more time that went by the more pronounced it became until finally there was no way to keep ignoring it. After checking some things out you confronted your spouse and they confessed to something you hoped against hope was not true.

Since that time the two of you have made a real effort to save the marriage but you still have doubts about their faithfulness. You still love your spouse but once they crossed that line of trust it's hard to believe that they will not do it again or even worse that they are still in the midst of an extramarital affair.

Unless you follow your spouse around twenty four hours a day seven days a week there is really no way of guaranteeing they are not two-timing.. What you are looking for are strong indicators that what happened is truly finished and that they are sincere about rebuilding the marital relationship..

The first is the quality of the apology. Expressing sorrow after a marital affair is not a one shot deal. It may have to be said over and over again until the spouse that was wronged feels better about their significant other and future of the marriage. It conveys understanding of what they did to hurt the relationship and acknowledges the hurt they caused to the marriage partner with a vow not to do it again. If they are not willing to give this type of apology then look out..

Another would be communication. Your spouse may have a hard time expressing what they did to you but if they are making a constant effort then that is a very good sign. They talk about the marriage and why did they feel the need to carry on an affair. Communication also means your spouse listens to what you have to say. You may repeat the same thing over and over again about how you feel and what they put you through. Your significant other understands without getting impatient or angry.

Finally there is transparency. No matter how direct and open the communication or how strong and sincere the apology it still comes down to proving it through action. The traits of infidelity in marriage must come to an end. If the two of you need to set up a system where you check in with each other on a regular basis then so be it. That may strike some as going too far but if the marriage is to be restored then having some kind of check and balance is vital.

For more information on how to get over an affair go to after infidelity

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