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Revealed - The Reason Why You Fail Every Day

By Gary M Bailey

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Published: 11Mar2009
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If you have been doing any kind of personal development recently, then the advice you will have received around achieving what you want will have included setting goals. Some prefer dream boards, others make lists - but the principle is the same - get focused on what you want. But what makes the difference between someone who goes on to achieve those dreams and the person who does not?

The answer to this is very simple, but it can also be very painful to contemplate. Because the answer is, quite simply, that YOU are the difference - and not because of what you have or who you are, but because of how you approach your goals.

Everybody experiences some kind of conflict around the things they want. It might be that you want to buy new clothes, but you know the money should go on your credit card. Or you might want to spend the weekend at home, but you know your family haven't seen you in a while. These kinds of conflicts we deal with all the time, probably without even thinking about it too much. But what if one of your big goals is to be closer with your family, and you have a conflict that you want to stay at home that weekend? You have to decide which is more important.

So what has this got to do with the business world? Well - most people start their own business because they have seen someone else having success in that area, and it is something that they feel they could do. In the internet world, that often means joining a system of some sort, usually with a mentor. So what makes the difference between the person who joins that system and changes their life and the person who does not? The system is the same, the abilities are the same, even the amount of money and time to invest are the same, yet one person becomes a millionaire while the other proclaims that same opportunity as yet another scam.

The difference between these two people is how they handle conflicts. If you are starting your own business, then you have to be totally focused on the success of that business - with EVERYTHING else being secondary. When it comes to Saturday night and you would normally spend time with your family - what happens to your business? If it's been a long day at work and you are dead beat - what happens to your advertising plan for that night? If you have to make the decision between putting money into advertising or buying new clothes - will your clothes last another month?

Failure does not occur as a single, massive event - it occurs as a result of many small, bad decisions each day. In the same way, success is not accompanied by a loud fanfare and fireworks - it appears as you make good decisions each day. If you want to gain weight - all you need to do is decide to choose pizza and chocolate instead of salad and lean chicken. And if you want to be successful in business, all you have to do is to make the right decisions for your business at each and every opportunity. That's sometimes easier said that done, but here's how I have come to approach this:

First off - pick your top 3 goals. You can go for just one, but most of us like a few things - maybe your business, a new car and a bigger house, for example. But the main thing is that you are focused on a small target - so don't pick goals that will immediately conflict - like building a new business and playing golf every day, for example.

Next - get very clear on those goals - use ALL your visualisation techniques and really get into that place. This is an exercise that you will want to do daily as you start this process, but the main thing is that you get into the skin of the person that you will become when you achieve those goals.

Finally, start being that person each and every day. So each time you have to make a decision, whether it's a major one or just deciding to go to lunch, you are making that decision as your new persona. The more you make decisions from that place, the more you will live into your goal - then your life will become exactly as you pictured it!

It's safe to say that this approach will involve sacrifices. But you have a choice here - you can live with the pain of discipline and focus for a short time in order to have the life of your dreams, or you can live with the pain of regret and "what if" for the rest of your life! Master this skill and you can be living the kind of life most do not even dare to dream of - keep drifting from decision to decision and you will never see your full potential.

Even with one very successful home business behind him, Gary is constantly watching himself to replace those bad habits with good ones! Take a look at his current home based business here.

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