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Redefining Discipline

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Way back in the day, when our Parents were children and even when our Grandparents were children discipline was totally different. It was common for children to be spanked in stores, at home, and sometimes to the ultimate extreme beaten for insolence, poor grades, bad behavior, or other misgivings. We all remember this happening to us and have, probably, since vowed to never do it to our child but does that mean they should stop being disciplined?

Never. All children need boundaries and definitions for rules and definitions for consequences. This is, in short, the definition of disciple, setting rules, having a child break them and then defining consequences for the child. Without this a child might never learn the difference between right and wrong.

With this in mind what kind of discipline should be kept in place to help teach a child moral fiber? A lot of people are recommending time-out as the standard or grounding for much older children. Generally the rules state that all children should receive time-out based on their age. This means that a four year old should receive four minutes of time out and a six year old should receive six. As far as older children go standard groundings last between two days and a week, sometimes more depending on the severity of the crime. Some parents have even started taking away cell phones, game systems, and other fun activities in order to punish their children.

All of these are fantastic way to discipline a child who has been disciplined in this manner since the time they were old enough to receive disciplinary actions. What about the out of control child however? On the series "Nanny 911," most out of control children are easily taught proper behavior by extraordinary British women who have been rearing children for fifteen plus years. What about the parent who is new to this "child rearing" experience and is not able to control their child in the same manner as those with so much experience? Not everyone can hire a British Nanny or get a spot on the show, so what is a parent to do?

If that's the case then a lot of parents might want to resort to a new method of discipline. Sometimes children with severe disciplinary problems need to be allowed to learn from someone other than their parents. Think about this for a moment. The average child has problems mainly with their parents; they get to a certain age where they cannot listen to their mother and father anymore. After all, at this point they think they are right about everything, that mom and dad no longer know what's best, and that they have the ability to thrive in the world on their own.

If this is the case then the child needs to talk to someone other than the mother and father, guardian, or perhaps grandparents. Instead they need a new person to look to, someone that they can idealize and learn from without realizing they are idealizing and learning from someone that should be respected. These people are generally someone who share a close interest with the child, such as a sport, an art related activity, or something of the like. A lot of children have an interest that parents never think to take an interest in themselves such as martial arts, photography, gymnastics, baseball, basketball, painting, reading, writing, or other extracurricular activities.

And although it might be hard to understand, a parent has two options once they get their child involved in this activity, they can either fully support it or not support them at all. The reason for these two differences lies in the child. If a parents has a child that cannot stand to have their parents involved then it is probably best that they do not stay involved with the child but instead stay involved with the person in charge. In this way the parent can keep tabs on their child, still understand and be informed about what the child is doing, and the child will believe the parent is allowing them to control something of their own for once. If the child, on the other hand, thinks that the parent never has supported them in anything, then it is best if the parent takes an interest in the child's new activity, perhaps even doing it with them.

Whatever method you have to choose, it is still a good idea for the parent to put them in the class with the adult role model they need. In this way they can help discipline their child without them even realizing it. Part of discipline is redirection as every parent knows this works with young children. If they want the green ball but cannot have it, then offer the yellow ball and they will most likely take it. If you grown child is out of control offer him/her something else to focus on and, with any luck, he/she will be able to refocus and get back on track.

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