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Talking The Confident Talk

By Jed McCall

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For those who don't have it, confidence is a very elusive subject to describe. Typical confident behaviour is seen as extroverted, outgoing, sociable and optimistic. However, even those people who possess these characteristics may be a lot less confident than their appearance supposes. You may be surprised to know that many successful people, even celebrities, visit life coaches and hypnotherapy professionals to help them with confidence issues. These people may exhibit many of the behaviours we associate with confidence, but really are putting on an act.

Surely though if it sounds confident, acts confident, is perceived as confident, then it must be confident? Well, clearly this isn't the case, yet superficial confidence is a state of being that many aspire to. In order to understand confidence fully, we need to dig a little deeper, look at the real meaning behind true confidence and then attain it.

Although these things can certainly help, confidence is not something that arrives with a certain salary or social status. All manner of people may possess confidence that others do not because it is a highly subjective process. If you are lacking in confidence, self assuredness is lacking somewhere.

Fortunately for you help is at hand. Over the years, experts have refined techniques that boost confidence and firm up your self conviction. There are a range of options out there such as cognitive behavioural therapy, Neurolinguisitic programming, hypnotherapy and life coaching to name but a few. Some of the more basic techniques you can use without the need to pay for an expensive therapist Of course, if your issues are severe, you should consider visiting an expert, particularly if your lack of confidence is causing depression.

One of the aforementioned techniques is known as 'visualisation' . Visualisation is a process whereby the mind 'rehearses' an event with the intention of replicating it in the real world. It is one of the easiest and most effective techniques to pick up and run with straight away.

Do you know anyone who you envy because they are calm, cool and confident. If so, 'borrow' their personality: Pretend that you have one of the positive attributes of this individual. Then imagine the difference between the way you are feeling now and how you were before. Imagine the difference this new attribute would have in your life. This may sound a little silly and childish, but believe me when I say it can be very effective.

No matter how successful they are, people lacking in confidence tend to rubbish themselves repeatedly. This may take the form of false modesty, for instance rubbishing themselves, refusing to take credit for an event. If you are one of these people, you need to think about changing your internal script.

The internal script contains the lines your inner voice reads from. We all have that little voice inside of us, guiding us through the world, making sense of the events around us. But few people know that this voice is not as random as it may appear at first; in fact this voice is conditioned by past behaviours, habits.

If your inner voice is putting you down all the time rather than building you up, it is your inner critic. An inner critic is not concerned with anything other than to put you down, make you feel small, prevent you from developing your true potential. You need to turn your inner critic into an inner coach, a confident voice that guides you instead of criticising all the time.

Hypnotherapy is one of the best techniques for reconditioning the inner critic. Many people have the old prejudice of hypnotherapy being about a funny man waving a watch in front of your eyes. Well, it aint quite like that. The success of modern hypnotherapy can be seen in the millions of people whose lives have been changed as a consequence of it. Put simply, hypnotherapy allows for accelerated reconditioning, undoing years of bad mental habits over the course of a few weeks, months.

A visit to a hypnotherapist or investment in a self help guide can have a major impact on your life. To have confidence, we need to feel empowered. From using the power of the mind, we can become so much more than we expected, more calm, less anxious, more confident.

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