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Fun Party Games for Adults - How to Really Have a Great Party

By Ron Vicari

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Published: 16Feb2012
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You have heard the phrase, `The devil is in the details', but do you realize that good manners and graciousness is also `in the details'?

So, with all the different flavors and objectives of the guests - per above- the best way to allow each guest to move toward their own `party goals' is to offer, and then leave them alone.

For example you may have a rather shy lady who is struggling with coming up with some good conversation starters with a guy, as often as you have some poor fellow struggling with finding clever conversation openings with a girl.

It is sadly true that many dinner parties are prepared with abundant attention given to menus and games - but little attention is given to the arena of fun and the merging of different guests' objectives.

You know that when we look at the different personalities of the people who will attend, we see that the categories often will fall into these classes:

Men looking to make a connection with women

Women looking to make a connection with men

Couples looking for a little more `oomph' than they are currently enjoying with small children always around

People looking for good deep conversation

People looking for just some laughs

Now, how do we fulfill all those different and varied objectives?

Dinner Party games will get things going so far, and will generally meet the expectations of a jump start. But after the ambiance of the game wears off - then the guests must fend for themselves.

The individual must have some `moxie` themselves. But, you can provide the atmosphere to allow them the freedom to be themselves, then the setting will be perfect.

One of my earliest recollections of my wife's relatives is when a tray of appetizers was being passed around, and when I declined - she graciously passed on - with just a smile. The reason I declined has been lost many years ago - but I recall vividly after all these years - that she did not persist, and make me uncomfortable by doing so.

In later years - I often witnessed a hostess saying things like, "Oh, just try one - you'll like it. I know you will!" or something like - "Come on! You won't know if you like it or not if you don't try it!"

So, allowing people the ability to pass on an offer of food or wine - is a hugely important aspect of manners of a good hostess, or host.

Such a simple thing; But so important!

You have heard the phrase, `The devil is in the details`, but do you realize that good manners and graciousness is also `in the details`?

So, with all the different flavors and objectives of the guests - per above- the best way to allow each guest to move toward their own `party goals` is to offer, and then leave them alone.

For example you may have a rather shy lady who is struggling with coming up with some good conversation starters with a guy, as often as you have some poor fellow struggling with finding clever conversation openings with a girl.

How can you accommodate that? Well, first there is what not to do - and that is to tell the other party - Guy or Gal, just how great the object of their attention is - in front of them. Wow - what a killer that is!

Instead, just allow them to find each other - and if that is not working - to invite them (subtly) to join in the conversation is as far as you should go. To go further, could place them (either one) in a very uncomfortable position.

You may not know this - but social skills and competencies are skills which many find lacking in themselves. A gracious host or hostess should be aware of these feelings which are present - in so many individuals.

So, just give some freedom of movement for your guests - and relax and have fun!! They will find their way in `their own way`.

Enjoy!!

Ron Vicari is a veteran of many dinner parties - both hosting and attending. Being a student of human behavior - he has learned many interesting aspects of this social tool. You can learn so much from the structure of the party - and equally much from the guests as they realte to each other. To see the personalities and `objectives` emerging is an engaging and fun exercise. Look at this Party Site

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