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Conversation Starters With a Guy - or Anybody; Where to Begin?

By Ron Vicari

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You know that if you experience any anxiety to get a conversation going, you can Google your concerns, and wind up with a long list of cutesy things to say which are meant to be good conversation starters.

"I'm [your first name]." Most people reciprocate an exchange of information. Give them your name, they'll give you theirs.

"How are ya doing right now?" "How's ya day been so far?"

"Where are you from?"

This advice is given so seriously, I know it is sincere - - but, do you really need these kinds of prompts? The cute little sayings and questions really do not do much to make you a conversationalist.

Let me suggest something to you:

Be Confident

Be Honest

Be Interested

Be Yourself

Now, allow me to suggest that these elements constitute the core of communication. So, let's take them one by one:

The 1st Element - Be Confident: This is by no means an empty suggestion - it is probably the most powerful of the four. Are you ignored by a sales clerk, while someone else gets the, "May I help you Sir or Madam"? Do you get lost in a crowd - even when the crowd is small? When you enter a group, do people say, "Ah, There you are?" Does your presence say, "Here I am?"

You know that your confidence can carry the day in almost any set of circumstances. The question is not - `Is Confidence Important? ` The question is really: `If I don't have the confidence, how can I obtain it? `

The 2nd element - Be Honest: This is a simple one to understand, and to execute easily. It is simply that you should not feign approval of something that is repugnant to you for the simple reason that you `will fit in` better. You know, we were always told to ourselves - and, wow, what a truism that was, and is.

The 3rd Element - Be Interested: Most people think that you should be interesting. That goes without saying. What is not often told is you should be interested. You know that our brain is a marvelous instrument. It does not have the limitations we ascribe to it.

When someone broaches a subject of which you have no knowledge, would it not be a good thing - to learn. You cannot learn if you are not open - and you cannot be open - unless you have the confidence (There is that word again) to explore a new subject with genuine interest.

Can you imagine how you can be described as a great conversationalist just by listening? Believe me, it will be so.

The 4th Element - Be Yourself: This is the easiest to understand, but sometimes the most difficult to accomplish. God made you the unique individual you are: While we all need a little refurbishing now and then, you are unique for a reason. Your uniqueness is to be valued.

To revisit the first element - Confidence - you can readily see that with an abundance of confidence - the other three elements come naturally and easily. Now the question is - How do you acquire that confidence?

Let's look at it rationally; you know that in conversation, certain combination of words is more effective than others. Learn about that. You know that there are techniques of conversation that master communicators use habitually. Learn about them.

When you know that you are using the proper combinations of words, with the right techniques - you will acquire the confidence that will have the four core elements of conversation fall easily into place.

Converse with Confidence, Humor, and Confidence!

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