Maintaining a good relationship with your ex for the sake of raising your children together is not always easy. It is simpler to walk away from your ex and think of them as a distant memory the minute the divorce decree is signed but this is not as easy for those who share custody of a children. In order to live with your ex on a daily basis it is crucial to learn how to cope with them on a regular basis. A good relationship with your children's father after your divorce takes a lot more commitment and effort on your part than your marriage ever did. In order to do this there are five basic reminders to live by. Living by these five rules on a regular basis will lead you to the happiest life possible for you and your children.
All animosity between the two of you should be left behind: With any life change, especially divorce comes a period of transition. Your life has been changed and now you are left to lead the type of life you truly want to. This will start a while new chapter for you, your ex and your children. Leave the resentment and past problems right where they are. The past is the past and the present is yours to define with your ex and the children shared between the two of you.
Don't worry about the stigma of divorce: When a couple gets married and divorced at a young age the thought is that the marriage was rushed into. The stigma is that you were not as mature as older adults who marry later in life. Marriage takes a commitment along with a lot of hard work; it is not for many couples no matter how young or old they are. Having children makes marriage a whole lot more work as well no matter how old you are when you get married and settle into having children. Don't let other peoples judgments create your story.
Don't make our friends and family chose sides: When a divorce takes place it is important to ensure your family and friends that there is no need to take sides. This is especially important when it comes to co-parenting. The families remain a vital part of your children's lives and therefore will remain a part of yours and your ex's. Do your best to foster this and grow a relationship with all of the people in your children's lives.
Don't forget to be flexible and respectful: If your children want to babysit the dog they shares with your ex while he is away on a business trip allow for a change of plans. If your ex needs to switch days he is with your son, do so without a hassle. This will foster a better relationship between the two of you and make the times you need help a bit easier for him to return the favor and help you. Plus it shows your children there can be a win-win situation in a divorce.
No matter how turbulent your divorce was it is time to write a new future with your ex for the sake of your children. Keep an outlook that focuses on the benefits of co-parenting. Divorce attorneys will tell you that a positive, fresh outlook on co-parenting while leaving the dust of the divorce to settle is in the best interest of all parties.
Longton DM, a subsidiary of Longton Law Offices is a divorce attorney specializing in Women/Mom's in divorce throughout Trenton and the surrounding Michigan areas. Find us at http://www.michigandivorcelawyerforwomen.com.