How to Flirt: An Essential Guide for Lesbians

Flirting can be a tricky thing, especially if you are new to the lesbian dating game. It can be especially difficult if you do not know the sexual preference of the person you are flirting with. However, with that said, nothing boosts the self-esteem more than having someone flirt with you. Or even better, having someone respond positively to your flirting. Everyone likes to know that other people think that they are attractive. But like anything else, there is a subtle art to flirting well. So here are some tips on how to be a good flirt.

Read her Body Language

There's nothing wrong with flirting with someone you've just met, but you need to be aware of her reactions. Is her body language standoffish? Is she crossing her arms or making other signals that she isn't interested? Pay attention to these subtle clues. If a woman isn't picking up what you're putting down, it's best to just move on. To continue flirting with her is rude, and may make her feel uncomfortable.

Make Eye Contact

Never underestimate the power of your eyes. Look your love interest right in the eyes when you are speaking to her. This not only projects confidence, but it also shows that you're interested. Hold your stare a little too long, and see how she reacts. If she's into you, she'll stare right back.

Get Yourself in Position

It doesn't matter how good you are at giving eye contact, if you're halfway across the room a powerful stare just isn't going to cut it. Get yourself near her. If you're in a group try to sit next to her, or at least across from her. There's no harm in making your move in an obvious fashion to clue her in to the fact that you like her.

Try to Have Some Physical Contact

There's nothing more exciting than a little "accidental" physical contact with your crush. If you're sitting next to each other at a booth, sit close by so that your leg touches hers. Does she move away? If she stays in close, it's a good sign. Touch her arm or her hand lightly during conversation. These little moments of touching not only show her that you're interested, but they also act as good ways to gauge her level of interest too.

Compliment Her

Everyone, especially women, love compliments. Who doesn't want to hear great things about themselves? If you are looking to date a woman, it's best not to dwell on physical comments too early on. It's better to compliment her outfit, or tell her that something she said was funny or clever. If you're feeling comfortable, you can go a step further and tell her that she looks really pretty tonight, or that she has beautiful eyes. But if you're interested in more than just a hook-up, you should refrain from complimenting her on being "sexy" or "hot." Compliments like these make women think you're only interested in sex.

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This article was published on 30 Sep 2010 and has been viewed 9615 times
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