Dating as a divorced parent can often be difficult. This is especially true for dads. There is a lot to prove to not only their children but also their ex and future partners. Divorces fathers often have only part time custody therefore tend to be less present with their everyday lives. This leaves them missing out on a lot of the little things that account for the lives of their children. That also means that when they do have time to spend with their children they really need to make every minute count.
Dating can often be a bit difficult for divorced dads. There is a lot to juggle while maintaining a healthy balance between time for yourself, time with your children and time for a significant other. When divorced dads start back into the dating world they should do so with caution. There is a lot to consider. Not only do you need to follow the normal rules of dating but also a new set of rules for divorced fathers.
First and most importantly never date or marry an individual that feels she deserves all of your attention and demands to be put ahead of your children. No matter what she brings to the table no women is worth placing your children and their needs on the back burner. When you had children you made the commitment to put them before anyone else in your life.
Don't compare children. This is especially true among siblings and step siblings. When you begin to compare them to one another they will begin to feel doubt in themselves and the love that you have for them. All children and different and unique in their own ways. Praise them for who they are and what they bring to the table. Each child offers something special to the family unit.
When you are a divorced father it is crucial that you do everything in your power to stay connected with your children. You need to be on time and attentive to them. Make a special effort to be at every event be it birthdays, sports, field trips and so on. Your presence or lack thereof will be noticed by your children, your ex and so will your significant other. If the person you are dating is someone you will want to be with forever they should encourage this.
Another important piece of the puzzle is that you live where your children live at least until they are out of school. This will ensure that you are there for as many big and little events as you can be. When you are dating be clear that you have no intentions of uprooting your life until your children are grown. You need to be clear that they are dating you and that your relationship is important but so is the relationship you share with your children.
Last but not least, when dating don't discuss your ex-wife, especially in front of your children. When dating, your ex is off limits in conversations with your significant other while you are with your children. They feed off of your negativity and will hold that against you later on in life.
It is a whole new world being a divorced father. Every aspect of life with change just a little bit none more so than your dating life. Take it all in, enjoy the ride and remember to be in the front seat of the rollercoaster with your children!
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